We Define Ourselves By Judging Others!

Aamir Khan’s “Intolerant India” statement is becoming intolerant by us Indians. How dare he say this about our loving country? How could he call India insecure and not worth living? He has no right to say this. He’s not a dignified man anymore; not a perfectionist anymore! Must be slapped; he deserves to be humiliated as much as possible by everyone in India, everyone means everyone! Share all negative things about him, make every possible effort to demean him, make videos, comment nonsense, do whatever it takes to make him feel ashamed, and every single person in the country must do so. Aamir Khan deserves this because he is a celebrity, and not a common man.

How quick we are to judge people around us? Every time they say something good or bad, we common people or even famous people for that matter of fact are always ready to give them a new character certificate.

We always change opinions about things, people, countries, religion, but we are not hypocrites. Someone who is famous and expressed what he felt, abiding by the constitution of India under the right to freedom of expression; He is a hypocrite! Let me remind all of us about the statements which are so commonly stated by common people like you and me or by almost every Indian citizen, several times, and let me leave it about your own judgment to certify these as intolerant or disrespectful towards the country or not.

General conversations in groups about India, living conditions in India, about people of India, religions in India and many more issues, include statements which are so common that nobody creates a fuss about them. How many of us usually say that:

“India hai yaar, yahan kuch bhi ho sakta hai!”

“India to Bahgwaan ke bharsoe chalta hai!”

“India me life ki koi value nahi hai!”

“India rehne layak kahan reh gya!”

“India ka kuch nahi ho sakta!”

Now my question to all of us who are accusing others and judging others’ statements is, “how often do we say these things to each other about our country?” At least once in a day or in general quite often? Don’t you feel that in a way we are disrespecting the country we are living in by stating these words of skepticism, distrust and uncertainty? Then how are we different from people who give clear statements about the safety in our country? What right do we have to question and judge others when we ourselves are not confident about our lives in our own country and keep on saying these “India aisa hi hai” statements.
It’s not about any celebrity being giving intolerant statements or a common person talking about uncertainties in the country, it’s about working on these issues without debating on things said or unsaid, without complicating the situations prevailing and making things shittier by commenting discussing unnecessarily. We have Time to make videos, write comments on everything that comes out of a celebrity’s mouth, but we have no time to question ourselves on the same statements that we spit out every day. We don’t judge ourselves before making such statements, but we can take lot of pain when someone else says this.
Before making things shittier and more viral can we take out time to understand how much we devote to our country, how responsible we are as common people?
Oh come-on! Stop criticizing everything! Don’t complicate things rather we must work on the solution on our own individual levels. We must stop questioning others and start questioning ourselves to judge what are we doing in any regard pertaining to our country?


Refugee Children are Extraordinary


I have worked closely with the refugee population in India as a trainer under a UNHCR project for close to 3 years, including people from Afghanistan, Burma, Iraq and Somalia. And what I have experienced during my interaction with them is a great ardour of love, gratitude and care in them despite of all odds, especially in the children.

I dedicate this blog to all those children who are displaced and seek asylum in other countries; who had to leave their favorite pals, playgrounds, house courtyards, schools and run away with or without their families to escape from savagely violent wars against peace and humanity. There would be many little souls who managed to stay in this world and survive, and many that could not.

Relating this to a recent event when a 3-year old washed ashore on a Turkish beach, the boy Aylan’s story echoed around the world. He as a child of God did his part to show the world how heartless it is, and what message a small little child can give to this cold-blooded world. Every child who leaves his loving things and places sends a message to us, but the message doesn’t get interpreted because we can’t think like these children of God. Yes, we are not close enough to God like these little generous souls.

Refugee children are not the ordinary ones, and there are several reasons for that:

They not only feel the need of being loved and cared but also know how to give out love and care – Many of these refugee kids had other kids or unaccompanied minors in their homes, and these children loved each other like siblings. They had no question about each other’s identity, but only love and care that matters the most.

They are not God-fearing, but God-loving despite all the misfortunes and challenges were thrown at them – Once during a class I asked a beautiful little 5-year-old refugee girl that how does she feel in India? She answered, “My mom says we will be happy where ever we go, because God looks down from heaven on us, and will always take care. She also said that God loves children like me who smile and listen to mom and dad. I feel happy in India, but I left my school in my country.”

They wish for a happy world while in their own adversities, and not just their own happiness – Every time I used to ask my  student kids about being happy or wishing something, they all had similar answers of wishing the world to be a peaceful place to live, and no one should be forced to leave their homes.

They are creative, not destructive because they know what destruction can cause – They show their capability of designing a whole new life around themselves and adapt to the circumstances.

They value relationships because they don’t take anything for granted – They understand the fear of losing someone, and the trauma of living without love and care. They value people around them and remain grateful for what they have.

They are inspiring and deserve more than what they have!

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Happy Independence to all who are PRIVILEGED, SAFE and FORTUNATE ENOUGH!


We are happy and proud to be Indians, but I AM not so proud to be a human, enjoying my independence without doing anything for our fellow citizens who are still the slaves of inhumanity. Yes, I feel bad to call our country free, when it is not!

These pictures will make you feel the same! I bet!

Enjoy Your Independence anyways!

Children on work sites than in schools – neither happy nor free!download (1)




Farmers commit suicide, but feed  us!httpwww.thehansindia.comassetsFarmers(6).jpg





Poor old widows begging in Varanasi and Mathura! It’s all their fault- they lost their husbands – their fault; they have uncaring and ungrateful children – their fault!httpwww.pardaphash.comuploadsimages660banaras%20widows-83915.jpg


Baby girls being killed in many states of our country! THEY ARE NOT EVEN FREE TO LIVE abortion_by_pzkrolik



Child abuse is alarmingly increasing !httpimages.indiatvnews.comcrimecrimeIndiaTva35a17_minor_molestation.jpg




Kids working in hazardous cracker factories – Don’t even have right to breathe fresh air! THEY ARE NOT FREEhttpgraphics8.nytimes.comimages20121112worldasia12-Firecracker1-Indiaink12-Firecracker1-Indiaink-blog480.jpg



Crime against Women!!!!! It doesn’t matter anymore,,,, everyday story!httplawlex.orgwp-contentuploads201305QWuXtyBwZfUOZCu-556x313-noPad.jpg



Poverty Stricken families! we see them all over, but what can we do? Government will handle!httpsgmroebuck.files.wordpress.com201104ind751.jpg



No, it’s not to sympathize with the beggars, but against the malicious Begging Racket!httpwww.udaipurtimes.comwp-contentuploads201402beggars.jpg


Even after 69 years of freedom, we are not free from any of these issues, why? Because, as common people we don’t even try, and just believe that our efforts would not be enough to change these situations.

We continue to live like this for years enjoying OUR freedom, not India’s freedom!


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Surrogates Born Out of Poverty – Helplessness or Choice?

Early morning while crossing through the lobby of my office, an educational institution in Delhi, the sight of a big headline in the newspaper lying on the coffee table stopped me to look at those Big Bold Black Catchy words, WOMB FACTORY.  I went closer to the table and just read the complete headline, which stated, “Inside the NCR womb factory: How poverty forces workers’ wives to become surrogate mothers in Noida, Loni, and Gurgaon”; Surrogacy is the magic word these days, but after I read the headline my concern immediately changed from surrogacy to “Poverty Forcing Women to do this”. And I was filled with not a feeling of sympathy, pity, consolation, but a feeling of disgust and strong disapproval. I am not judging the situations people go through to opt for this way of coming out of their misfortune, or poor monetary conditions; there could be very much valid reasons for choosing this source to get out of certain unavoidable situations; but, poverty is not the only reason for people to make this choice.

These days this option is widely available in market to cater to people who can pay heavily for this, but when this option was not so readily available a few years back, didn’t people find out other ways to get out of their pathetic life situations born through poverty? I know, and completely understand that there are other unethical, illegal, dishonorable and immoral ways that people have to opt out of helplessness, but, why when a high paying product/service comes in the market, people choose it as the easiest way to get themselves fulfilled, blaming poverty as the sole reason for their choice? Aren’t other options, with some dignity, patience, and righteousness are of any help to deal with situations in poverty and distress? Again stressing on worst case scenarios, where people HAVE to go through wrong choices deliberately, but not everyone who’s poor. Let me state some phrases people have shared in the article talking about their needs and helplessness to agree to surrogacy:

I’m saving money to marry off my girls. A girl’s marriage in India costs a lot to parents. I have two daughters who are growing up. I want to save some money for them so that I can easily marry them off.”

No other way to pay our debts”. Pinki’s husband has a small-time job in an export house and is trying hard to make ends meet. “I already have two sons. When I had my second son, I never thought I would be pregnant again. But circumstances make human beings their slaves.”

We want to build a house. For many years we have been striving to build a house, but the high prices have broken our back.”

These statements and many similar to these make me ponder over the actual reason of this widespread and easiest choice of becoming a womb factory.

It’s not helplessness out of poverty; it’s a choice to have better living conditions through high paying options available. I concur that everyone has the right to choose their way of living and spending life, but people with struggling conditions only blame poverty for the miseries of their lives, and they don’t even look out the better ways to deal with the miseries. These money earning options are not forced by poverty alone to go for; choosing these options in the name of poverty is demeaning the better options available which many others under the poverty line are following, like, education, sensitization on various life issues – social/health/educational/better living conditions/growth prospects through fewer resources, and much more. We have so many resources to improve our life conditions, and which are permanent solutions to this problem of poverty, but most of the people do not want to utilize those, just because they are not as easy as quick money options like surrogacy.

Not poverty, but illiteracy, ignorance and lack of education in overall areas of life make people to choose the easiest but worst options.

Choosing surrogacy as a poverty eliminator may be a good idea to earn and solve major issues of life, but this is not the solution to poverty, and neither the forceful result of bad life conditions. Blaming poverty for this choice is guff! Better options do exist!
Main article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/indiahome/indianews/article-3147827/Inside-NCR-womb-factory-poverty-forces-workers-wives-surrogate-mothers-Noida-Loni-Gurgaon.html