Saying this to your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend is quite common, but the true answer lies within yourself. Rather than asking this question to others, asking it to yourself will give you the best answer. Ponder upon the reasons why you don’t love yourself much and you won’t be able to give yourself any excuses or fake assurances with a mouth full of lies like others can do to you. That’s true that we cannot lie to ourselves. Relate this FOMO (fear of missing out) of good things like love and attention from others to those days when you were single but happy, may be in your childhood or adolescence, and find out why were you happy that time as compared to now when you have people closer to you? You will find that you are actually not missing anything, but yourself. The FOMO is connected to people, not to real happiness.
It’s important, I must say very essential to find yourself if you are lost in running after people for your happiness. AND, IT’S VERY EASY!
Don’t wait for special occasions with people, like dating or celebrating only with others. Date yourself; celebrate your existence, your own happiness, and your own achievements.
Shop for yourself, or wear beautiful dresses when and wherever you want
Take yourself out for a coffee, some desserts or some wine
Drive yourself to beautiful places, scenic highways and put on your favorite music
Pamper yourself with a SPA ; buy it or create for yourself. A warm bubble bath with aromatic oils and plenty of time can just be the perfect way to pamper your body temple
Walk alone or go for a trek. Romance nature and you will never be disappointed.
Cook for yourself. Anything that you like and would love to cook for others, make it for you. Don’t treat yourself as unimportant. A glass of wine while cooking with some beautiful music or any travel and food documentaries is my way of happy cooking.
Dig out the things you forgot during the course of life which made you happy, or something that you always wished for. It could be a hobby, and activity you were fond of. It could be a thing you always wanted for yourself, a dress, a book series or anything.
Beach-up. Nothing is more soothing and relaxing than listening to the ocean waves. You can do this too, but you can also party on the beach, play with the waves and have fun the way you want to. A beautiful beach dress, flip-flops and a beach bag can make you
A bookstore with a café’. No need to say more.
Appreciate your appearance, your looks. Feel gorgeous
Dare it. Face your fears if you have any. Go for adventures and your success or failure will make you closer to you
Movies, yes, they make you feel good. Watch your favorite movies. If not regularly, at least once in a month spend your day with your favorite characters and stories with treats in the living room.
Meditate or join a spiritual group, a Sufi dance workshop, a pottery workshop, a gardening workshop.
Grow your own garden. A few beautiful plants, organic herbs not only please the senses but also give a chance to spend some time for yourself by using them for your own health.
Sit in a garden and relax on the green carpet grass
Excursions, food walks, dance workshops, wine tasting events, farm tours, a visit to stud farms, stage shows, stand-up comedies, live music concerts, swimming and so much more to do with yourself
Buy yourself flowers every now and then and some chocolates too. Enjoy!
Very well authored post. Though each line of the post is a message to note but the message at end is really the take away.
Thanks for such a nice post!!!
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Simply loved to hear from you! A little appreciation from an eminent writer means the world to a novice like me.Thank you